Genealogy is fun

Subj: [SlaveAfriGeneas] New memberDate: 11/28/99 1:08:37 PM Eastern Standard TimeFrom: kfrink@treco.net (KFrink)Reply-to: SlaveAfriGeneas@onelist.comTo: SlaveAfriGeneas@onelist.comCC: cfrink@co.wake.nc.usFrom: “KFrink”Hello everyone:Usually, I would read and wait before posting to a group. That way, I couldpost with a “blend” or better understanding of what to say or how much tosay, or how to blend without being offensive.Let me go ahead and start by saying, as a simple minded white amateurgenealogist, I thought I had traced back and found my roots, my heritage,and my family when I found both black and white FRINK people still alive andwell who are all descendants of slave and slave owner.In my simple mental condition, I thought Black FRINK would be happy to meetwhite Frink, and I thought white Frink would be happy to meet black Frink.When I tried to organize a reunion with ALL Frinks, I was shocked to learnthat people of both “colors” who come from the same grounds, don’t see itthe way I do.First, let me say that right now I wish I was sitting in church, but when Iwoke up this morning, I couldn’t figure out if I should go to a black churchor a white church.I HAD been attending a “all black church”, because I felt the worship wasmore sincere, but last night, I was informed by a member of this network,that at best, Black folk tolerate me as being “company” or as a guest”, andI steal their joy by imposing myself on people who do not feel as if I amfamily, but as if I represent the remnant of “the enemy”.So here I am, in my whiteness, once thinking I had found family, nowrealizing I am not perceived at all as family, but a person who is openlyrejected because of the color of my skin and because of my genetic link tothe people who lived in the big house while your people lived in thequarters.I can’t change what happened. I can only try to do what is right before MYLord who happens to see no color, but who also demands hearts who aretender, hearts who are like a child’s and hearts who are able to exercise”forgiveness”.The Bible says that God wants NOTHING to do with a person who can notforgive, and the Bible also says to REPENT and change from evil ways,..SO,our Bible addresses BOTH Black and white, because in MY opinion, White needsto repent, black needs to forgive, and not next year, or next generation,but now, and I mean RIGHT now.The Berlin wall came down “right now” when it began, and this white-blackwall will only come down when we start tearing it down rather than puttingit off for some other generation to deal with.Having spoke my mind,…I will say this. I stumbled upon records of willsof my ancestors where families were split when my so called, self proclaimed”God fearing” Ancestors GAVE their slaves to their children in a gesture oflove and kindness to their own white children and spousal survivors.WRONG??? Yes, but I can’t change that. What I CAN change is me.I have information of who was given to whom, and probably you haveinformation of the handed down stories of the horror, and the mistreatment,and possibly, MAYBE some good uplifting stories of some unexpected GOODwhich might have happened in slave days.In my understanding (very limited), of slave trade, it was the Spanish whowere really promoting this business trade. The Spanish clubbed andkidnapped, and stoll and sold to the colonists, who bought and cared fortheir new “property”,…their “purchased help”,…their slaves. Atlanta Search engine Optimization . Okay,….Itwas wrong, it was horrible, but there you are, alive and well, and here Iam, alive and well, and as I am told by you, “WE aren’t related, WE aren’tfamily, WE should not enjoy reunion together because YOUR family reunioncelebrates your family after freedom came for you.What I hear is that I am not a part of your past.What you do when you say that is that you throw me out of OUR family.Of course, you have FAMILY that goes way back beyond slave days, you haveroots in Africa, and as far as I know, you could find those roots if you gothrough the white man’s records, and the Spanish records and that causes TWOthings…ONE, it causes black to HAVE to deal with the past records of thewhite, and TWO, IF, white wants to DO RIGHT, we must HELP you find and traceyour records OTHERWISE, we continue the trend of slavery…….There is still an emancipation process which needs to be dealtwith…….The captors need to set free, and the captive needs to becomefree, and today, in church, in the black church, and in the white church, wehear the Pastor preach FORGIVE, Repent,…..put LOVE in your heart, and thenwe go right back out into the streets and can’t get past the truth whichhurts BOTH sides.I was told that the Evil of slavery is a HURT which some can’t get over.WHAT ABOUT ME???? Don’t you think I hurt??Your Aunt was lynched, and my Uncle lynched her???? How do you think thatmakes me feel?????? You are guilty of being hurt, and I am guilty of doingthe hurt???????? NO, our ancestors did it…… some were killed, somekilled, but WHAT shall WE do about it???HOW shall WE act????I am told to STAY AWAY from FRINK reunion as I am white and represent toomuch hurt. I am told by WHITE Frink reunion, “We want to invite BlackFrinks, but they won’t come (wouldn’t want to), and there it is..WE,… WE,.. black and white WE FRINK people, had a huge farm, which ONLYworked because it was operated like a commune. EVERYONE did their part, andright or wrong, WE ALL SURVIVED…..I survived the sins of my ancestors, andYOU survived the HURT from my ancestors, BUT it was a family thang.HUH?? That’s right. RIGHT OR WRONG, slave owner saw to it that “Hisproperty” was safe, fed, and not abused by outsiders”…….NO, it is verylittle to brag about,….but my point is, WE, slave or free, come from thesame ground, we drank the same water, MAYBE I am alive because I was savedby a black slave who cared about a white baby enough to instill healing andlove rather than hate and resentment.I am told that IF I went to BLACK reunion, I would make peopleuncomfortable. I would cause people to go away and not come back. I am toldthat I would be treated as “company” and rob the joy of Black reunion.So here is what I propose to my Black FRINK people who don’t accept me asbeing family.Next time you have a Black Family reunion for FRINK people, Invite me, tieme to a post, and spit on me and kick me all de day long, and then see ifyou feel better afterwards. When you reject me for the sins of my ancestorswhose name you chose to Keep, that is what you are doing anyway,…..tyingme to a post and spitting on me.If that’s what it takes to get to love and forgiveness, if that’s what ittakes to make my white Frinks THINK, then so be it.I don’t know who to be madder at, white or black. It seems the doors areclosed on both houses, and it doesn’t seem like anyone cares to open a dooreven a little crack.Let me close with this thought:As you discover your facts about the slave trade, you will discoversomething the white man has confused to this very day.A certain Captain of a ship in charge of slave running was anchored off thecoast of Africa when he suddenly realized the HORROR and the EVIL he wasinvolved in. He repented. He denounced the slave trade. He WROTE A SONG,entitled AMAZING GRACE, and years later, as we all sing that old song whichwe have long since forgotten the significance of, the KLU KLUX KLAN uses thevery same song as their THEME song.The stupid, ignorant KKK uses a song which was about denouncing andrepenting from the very same thing they promote.Isn’t that the most stupid and ironic thing you have ever heard???I hear that the Rebel flag and the song ‘Dixie’ makes my black family sick.I can understand that, but add AMAZING GRACE to the list, because AMAZINGGRACE came from a white man, who was right in the middle of slave trade whenhe decided NO,…NO, I was BLIND but now I see.Black Frink people, I am a part of your family. I am a part of yourheritage. I am NOT worthy to think of myself as equal or better, YOU havedone so good, and I have done so poorly, but we are an adoptive family.Law is law. When a person becomes married, they become ONE.When a child is adopted, the child becomes a part of the family.Frink is Frink, is FRINK, and family is family.I am told that if I was to show up at a family reunion, I would cause peopleto go away and not come back.How can we know that??????? It has not been done. It will NEVER be doneunless we use the turn of this century, and the mandate in Leviticus ofJUBILEE, of setting things straight, of returning to what’s right for thesake of ALL of our descendants.When I was in the navy in 1964, I waited for the owner of a car to returnbecause the name sticker of the car was FRINK. When he arrived it wasobvious he was a Black FRINK, and I spoke. He told me where he was from, andmany years later, I FOUND my white roots based on the location of this blackFRINK.We were from the same piece of ground in North Carolina.I want to be a part of my family. If it makes my family happy to spit on me,I want to make my family happy. I really mean that. I’ll go one stepfurther. If someone wants to kill me for being a white FRINK, I am ready todie. Think I’m just talking? Try me………………YOU deserve to knowyour African roots, I deserve to be a part of my adoptive family.FRINK, is FRINK, black and or white, FRINK IS FRINK,…I’ll bet that MANY ofthe mannerisms I have today which I taught my children came from BLACK SLAVEFRINK people. I’ll bet we are more ALIKE that we are different. I’ll bet welike the same food, the same humor, and have the same spirit.Who do we think raised Massa’s children????? YOU DID!!Who whispered in my ear, whose breast did I suckle?? Who cooked and fed me?Who changed me? WHO tried to teach me right from wrong while I was in thecradle?Black FRINK people (and relatives to Black Frink) YOU are my family…youdidn’t raise me to cast me out, you raised me to make a change in the horrorand the evil and the wrong going on.Well, here I is,…What chu gonna do with me???Kenneth R. Frink”Ken”PsI do have lots of slave info from a book entitled “The Southern Frinks”I sent it to Carolyn FRINK in Raliegh, whose Father is President of BlackFRINK reunion in Ash NC. The one I was not allowed to attend because I’m notblack of skin.PS#2When white FRINK and Black FRINK ended up BOTH with the surname of FRINK,someone adopted someone in law. ibc . tree service . Law, says adoption is adoption.As Christians, Christians are “grafted to the vine of Judah” through theiracceptance of Lord Jesus. Because of Jesus, we are “adopted” into thekingdom of God. Adoption is just as powerful and just as valid as biologicalfamilyI AM a part of the FRINK family.